Power. That word in itself is something that feels bigger than ourselves, doesn't it? When I talk about stepping into your own power, I mean finding your own voice, starting to believe in yourself, trust your thoughts, feel your feelings, and take action. Often times we label power to either be positive or negative. Power as the positive label may mean that the more power we have, then the more we get or have; we’re more influential and so on. On the negative side, we label power as something that is selfish, manipulative, abusive, and so on. We relate the meaning of the word to a past experience relative to how we reacted to “power.”
It is so very easy for each one of us to be influenced by external factors whether is emotionally, mentally, physically, socially or even environmentally. In turn, we find ourselves starting to believe what others interpret what is happening around you, and just doing and saying things just to fit in and survive socially. Fear sets in, we’ve lost ourselves, our voices, and we’re constantly worried about others think about us; we fear being different, thinking differently. Anxiety and stress manifests, panic attacks arise, and we avoid things all together. Let’s stop that, how about? But is it that easy? Yes, it is. Here’s how.
1. When you feel it, let yourself feel it. We, as a society, tend to label feelings as either good or bad, acceptable or unacceptable. We allow ourselves truly to feel some feelings but not others. I think it’s a crock! Stop that! No feelings are altogether good, no feelings are altogether bad; they just are. Now is the time to allow the feelings of anger, sadness, resentment, frustration, heartbreak, happiness, or whatever to come up. Maybe it’s from something that happened in the past or maybe it’s something from today, maybe it happened to you or someone else, or a group or a world issue. Who cares, just feel it!
Apply non-judgment. The more we apply non-judgment and label feelings, the more we’re able to look outside of ourselves and let go of our own egos based on that fear or judgment. When we do this, we release any energy that drains and connects you with your higher self and feelings of peace and clarity become more abundant.
2. Change the thought. Seriously change the thought. We form opinions and judgments that we create about an event, situation, person or experience and believe those to be true.
For example, I believe feeling sadness equates to weakness, because only weak people experience and feel sadness. If you’re tough, there is no sadness. If I show sadness/weakness I will be judged.
CHANGE THE THOUGHT, what’s another way to look at it?
The ability to feel sadness is an emotion that allows me truly to be my authentic self and subsequently able to be more empathetic toward others and myself. It’s an opportunity for me to connect with my core emotions and, at the same time, be in tune with other people’s emotions.
So now…how true is it that sadness is a bad emotion? It doesn't have to be. Change it.
3. Listen to your body. It is true that when you are truly connected with your core, you feel physical reactions toward emotions. When you’re sad, you feel lethargic, your heart feels crushed, and you have a huge pit in your stomach. When you’re happy you feel it in your heart, you start walking with your shoulders up, you smile, and the list goes on. It’s a physical reaction, no doubts about that. So get out of your head and into your heart, listen to your body and just roll with it.
I invite you this week to be present to your feelings and witness when fear or judgment is running the show. It’s helpful to be aware of the issues in the world, not to go into fear and worry, becoming part of the drama of it all–but instead to hold the higher perspective and intention for peace. Get rid of the energy in your life that isn’t working for you anymore as it relates to feelings, recognizing where it is in your body and let it be. Take responsibility of your re-actability, or non re-actability and let it go of your ego. You will find that when you actually let go of trying to control your feelings and emotions, that my friends, is when you step into your own power and start living more consciously.
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Malay Bouaphakeo, Coach - contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org or visit www.fullpursuitlifecoaching.com
I coaching young adults to start living the life that they want and to stop worrying about the past or the future and find out what's holding them back. My pursuit is to turn ideas into reality, help reduce stress and provide clarity around their personal and professional life! I dig in deep by asking hard and honest questions in order to challenge individuals to break down those barriers and set goals at the same time.