FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) is a thing. It’s a very real feeling that’s starting to creep into our social relationships. Will we ever settle for what we have, rather than holding on to the fear that we may be missing out on something better? Social media like Facebook and Twitter are making things increasingly more difficult for those suffering from FOMO.
We are so connected with literally everyone and everything, Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram, Snapchat, you name it, it’s nearly impossible to be alone anymore! The fear of missing out on something more fun, having that “need to know” feeling about what’s going on with anyone at any given moment, or on something that might just happen on the spur of the moment — is so intense, even when we’ve decided to disconnect, we still connect just once more, ya know, just to make sure.
For some we are allowing FOMO drive us, often unconsciously, to decisions we don’t even want to make. Recent studies have shown that FOMO is often linked to feelings of disconnection and dissatisfaction, and that social media feeds FOMO. Some people don’t just want to keep up – they start to compare and evaluate their lives based on how they see others portraying their own lives. Personal implications are more obvious, but we also suffer in our work lives as well.
Signs that you are indeed suffering from FOMO:
You constantly check social media...email... anything that "connects" you.
Sure blame work for creating the culture of “having to check your email/phone/etc” for this, but the reality is, it’s a choice. We check things like Facebook, email, and such, because we want to. We want to stay in the loop, even if that means missing out of what is right in front of us.
Find yourself questioning your “balance”
We all find ourselves searching for a better "work/life balance, in fact, how many of you are saying this to yourself right now?! Sure, from time to time we ask if were are doing things “right”, however this drives these people quickly to that mind set of “never being satisfied”. The vicious cycle of FOMO shows up even sitting at your kids basketball game wondering what you’re missing in that meeting you had to miss because of the game, or you’re at work late, wondering what you’re missing out at home, with your friends, family, and the list goes on and on!
If you spend your time with worry, you’ll be missing out on everything.
Always questioning the career choices you’ve made.
From time to time you may have not made the career move that you wanted, but you learn from it. But when you feel like you’re never in the right place with your career, say hello to FOMO. It provides us with an unsettled feeling, you’re never really giving work your 100%, therefore never making the best out of any situation.
Social media is like a predator and you are its prey. You check out your friends work lives that they display on social media and you start questioning your own job and your own fulfillment with what you are currently doing.
Having to be a part of every decision or meeting at work or social event
That constant feeling that you’re missing out on a decision or a meeting that is happening without you. Invited to multiple social/clubs/parties happening every night of the week and sometimes on the same night, and feel like you absolutely cannot miss any of them? Not invited to other events or social gatherings and wondering if you’re missing out on something fun? That is FOMO.
At the end of the day, the reality is that there are few things so truly important in life that other things can't wait. Sure, I guess if you’re the only link between life and the mass destruction of the world, check your email at dinner. But everyone/everything else, not so much.